Growing up, my family's humor is to mock and make fun of each other. As per usual, I picked it up. When I got to college and by the time I met Jake, I tried not to do that near as much but it obviously was still there. When we were first married I realized that I would say things out in public and to our friends that I shouldn't. I would be joking but these people who didn't know me very well didn't know that I was.
So a few months into our marriage I realized that the things I'm saying could possibly be hurting Jake. So one night I brought it up and asked him if they were getting to him and affecting him. I remember that day because I decided that I would be a better wife. He said that he knew that's how I was, but it did get to him some times.
From then on I made the decision that I would be better. That I would really try to uplift my husband, and make everyone jealous when I talked about him because he is the best husband ever!
That is one thing I have been working on, but while starting this new job, I have really realized that I have done better. I talk about Jake like he is a prince who moves mountains. Because in fact, that is exactly how he is.
Now I'm not saying that I'm perfect by any means. I do occasionally joke around and catch myself saying something about Jake, or to Jake that someone might not take the way I mean it. So I stop myself, apologize, and move on.
Time with Jake has been so much better since I decided to do that. I will be with him into the eternities and I don't want him regretting his decision to be with me.
Challenge: uplift everyone around you. Pick one person that you are around most days and make them feel better.
Life will be better, and you will be happier!!